The interesting thing about all relationships is that they are both an asset and a liability. Parents understand this for sure. If their kids do anything like steal or break something that is the property of someone else, the parent now has that liability to deal with. The same goes for a business. As an owner of a business I participate in both the triumphs and value creation of others in the firm, but also with the issues that harm the goodwill of the firm or are destructive in any manner.
Just as I do not condone gambling (or what many call investing), I do not condone speculation or what I would call gossip in my organization. When there is complaining or blaming, it is from a scarcity mentality and is focused on the past and not producing in the present or preparing for opportunity in the future. It seems that fear is the number one reason for rumors and the survival of those rumors. Even if there is any truth to what people may be saying, my question is “is it productive”?
One of the best ways for me to overcome the human tendency to create stories based upon perspective (versus what actually happened) is to ask the question “what would I do and what would I want if I were in their shoes”? Now, the “their” I am talking about has to do with anyone we are wanting to talk about in a non-positive way. I know that it takes courage, but why not go to the source? Most people are mostly concerned with being right even if it means villainizing another.
So why do I talk about this in my post? Well…we always talk about people being assets, but every asset has a liability. Is there ever a time where increasing the liability without increasing assets or bottom-line increasing productivity makes sense? In the context of relationships I don’t believe so. It may make sense to address a liability and decide the asset isn’t worth it that is attached to the liability, but in this case one would reduce the liability by addressing it.
A rumor destroys the human life value of those who perpetuate it. If it is in fact a rumor, it also deceptively destroys he human life value of those that it is about. Being on the radio, I have had plenty of rumors about me. It is interesting the conspiracy theories that people come up with. And for what? Mostly to feel important or to justify or to be a means to express fear. Really, I know that it has become part of the social agreement in our world to gossip, but there is no production in it. It is a beast of consumption.
This is a serious post, but I want to be authentic each day with what is on my mind. I have plenty to be grateful for and could list those things today, but my mission this week especially is to address and stop any gossip in my businesses and relationships. This will be done with the very technology that is taught in the Mental FastTrack.
One thing is for sure, the more relationships and stewardship, the more critical it is to have proper structure, policy, and communication to address issues. The very nature of stewardship is that the more of a steward you are, the more resistance that will be present because of the consumer condition that is threatened.
I ask you to consider finding any relationships that drain your energy, create negativity or scarcity, or most importantly that you have neglected and get into powerful communication. Energy is one of our most precious resources. If people you know are going to be assets, are there any that have liabilities that you can address and protect your energy and human life value?